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Learning Contentment In All Things (February)


“Choosing God’s will over our desires is certainly a lifelong process.”

by Mrs. Cynthia Veysey

“Not that I speak in respect of want;
For I have learned in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”
[Philippians 4:11]

As believing women, we will all admit that the road to learning settled contentment seems to be a lifelong one. The Christian life is a journey along a wonderfully lighted path. Our Lord Jesus goes on before us, the Holy Spirit, our Comforter, illuminating every step with the light of His Word. Through the years, by God’s grace, we see measures of growth toward maturity in every area, including, and perhaps especially, that of contentment and a willingness to only please Him in all that we do. God brings various and sundry things into the lives of individuals, couples and families.

This testimony is what the Lord has given to us and is an area that I find little written about. It may be partly because it involves a relatively ‘small’ population of Christians, or perhaps because there is very little recorded concerning this topic in the New Testament. I hope that it will be used by God in the lives of others who may be experiencing it, or will in the future.


When I met the love of my life in 1979, we were both new believers. I was eighteen years old, recently graduated from high school and so very excited to begin a second “new life”; that of a keeper of the home; looking forward to being the wife of this wonderful young man and the mother of 12 children, if the Lord would be willing. We married in October of 1980 and month by month, year by year, we prayed and waited expectantly for our first dear little child to come into the world.

After our second year of marriage we were blessed to have our sweet nephew, Bradley, come into our lives on a regular basis. Due to sad circumstances he lived with us, spending time with his father (my husband’s brother) for a few hours each day but returning to his home with us for 4 years of his life. We were thrilled to have him from the time he was 9 months old until he was almost 5. This filled a void in our lives for a season, but when God made it clear that we were to move to a different state, Bradley went back to be with his father and soon started school. The separation was difficult for both Bradley and for us but God gave grace through it all.


We had been married nearly eight years at this point and we continued to pray and await God’s timing in having children. The Lord moved us into two more major life-changes; one, a relocation to South Carolina so that my husband could attend college at Bob Jones University. Six years later He brought us back to New England to help in a small church. By the time we were sent “back home,” where we presently still abide, we had been married 17 years. Though it had not happened yet, we knew that God was still entirely able to bring children into our lives. Being surrounded by nieces and nephews once again was a great blessing, something we had missed for the nine years that we had been away from our home area.

Many times through those years, loving and well-meaning couples reminded us that there was always the opportunity of adoption. Having had witnessed adoption through the lives of grandparents on both sides of my family, I hold it in very high regard. We know many families, and highly respect those who have adopted children into their homes. From the beginning of our marriage we only wanted to have God’s will for our lives. I suppose that part of the decision not to adopt may have come from fear of not knowing if it was truly God’s will or if in adoption we would just be trying to “fill a void” that God was entirely able to fill with Himself. Whatever the reason, though faced with two opportunities to adopt newborns, we both were convinced each time that it was not the Lord’s will. When I turned 40 I went through a tumultuous two months of struggling with the Lord’s will in this burden of our hearts. He used the verse from Hebrews 5:8 to remind me that, “Though He were a son, yet learned He obedience by the things which He suffered.” Obedience is “learned.” Obedience is also a choice. Choosing God’s will over our desires is certainly a lifelong process. It is a daily discipline.


“If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.”
[Matthew 16:24, 25]

No two people bear the same cross. Perhaps this testimony is similar to that of many couples, but it is that which the Lord has given to us alone. As you can understand, I can only write from a woman’s perspective. It is difficult to know or articulate how a man does view this same situation, but I am thankful that my dear husband has left it completely with the Lord. Our lesson of contentment in ‘disappointment’ has gone on now for nearly 34 years. By God’s grace the ‘disappointment’ has become less and less, while He teaches us obedience more and more. There will come a day when we step into eternity with our God to worship the Father and Lord Jesus Christ forever. What will it matter then, what we have gone through, “suffered,” here on earth? Until then, He says,

“My grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then am I strong.”
[2 Corinthians 12:9,10]

By Mrs. Cynthia Veysey
who writes from Vermont. She is the joyful wife of her loving husband, and they serve the Lord in a small Bible church and both help with the care her dear, 85-year-old mother.

“When thy secret hopes have perished in the grave of years gone by, let this promise still be cherished, ‘I will guide thee with mine eye.’”
-William Cowper [I will Guide Thee With Mine Eye]

Photography by Maggie and Martha Joy B.

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In Everything Give Thanks (November)

Julie Peterson

Give Thanks Challenge 2014Throughout November, KBR is hosting our annual GiveThanks! x7 Challenge. Join us as we thank the Lord each day, for seven things we are thankful for. You can write these things in your personal journal, or share them on our private minigroup. More info on the challenge is here. We’d love to have you join us!On the topic of thanksgiving, Christianna shares how thankfulness is so important!
In Everything Give Thanks

by Christianna Hellwig

“In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Have you ever thanked God for something for which you could see no purpose? It is easy enough to praise God joyfully for some great blessing which we’ve wanted or appreciated. But have you ever bowed your head and prayed, “Lord, I thank you that my brother just splashed mud all over my freshly ironed church blouse?” Have you ever softly whispered, “Father, I want to thank you that I am sick and have to sit here at home instead of going to the autumn fest?” I doubt too many of us have.

It is perfectly Biblical to ask for things; in fact Paul tells us, “let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” But have we ever spent a time in prayer simply thanking God for every single situation that is going on in our lives, whether we like them or not?

To be thankful is one of the hardest things we can do, because it requires humility and selflessness. And if you were to name the root of most of your sins what would it be? Probably, pride and self love!

We see the theme of ‘sacrifices of thanksgiving’ sprinkled liberally throughout the Scriptures, because the giving of thanks is a sacrifice. To thank God, instead of asking, is sacrifice on our part: we sacrifice our desires, our idolatrous interpretations of what life ought to be like, and, most importantly, our pride and self love!

I have read that there are four states of thankfulness:

  1. Constant complaining; grumbling constantly because there seems to be nothing good in our life.
  2. Ungrateful; not complaining, but not thanking either, as in the case of the nine lepers whom Jesus healed.
  3. Thankful for the good things; thanking God for the obvious blessings in life but not for that which is unwanted.
  4. Thankful in everything; taking the good and bad alike with a thankful heart.

Which state are you in? I fear I find myself far too often in the second and third categories, sometimes in the first, and exceedingly rarely in the fourth.

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Of course the question may be asked next, “Should we thank God for sin and evil? Should we thank Him for a killing or a stealing?” I think the key verse in this case is Romans 8:28: “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

The thought here is that every circumstance will turn out well for us who are Christ’s—no matter whether it is good or evil. So if we know that every thing will turn out well for us, why shouldn’t we thank God for every situation He brings our way? In light of this, pray, “I thank you, Lord Jesus, that you have caused this situation to happen to me; help me to learn from it.” We’re thanking Him that He can use any circumstance for our good.

I want to encourage every one of you to spend this next month thanking the Lord for things that, may not necessarily be things you wanted. What often happens is, as soon as you thank the Lord for it, you begin to find joy in it. I used to be extremely ungrateful for the fact that I had four younger brothers and no little sister. I didn’t care for boys and wanted a little sister who would look up to me as I looked up to my older sisters. About five years ago, I began to thank the Lord for my brothers and now, I can truthfully say, I wouldn’t trade them for a younger sister at any time, simply because that’s not what the Lord has given me. He gave me brothers and once I began to thank Him for them He granted me contentment with them. This leads to an extremely important point: with thankfulness comes contentment.

Amanda Hage

If you ever find yourself discontented, start thanking the Lord for whatever it is you’re unthankful for that moment. Not only will you start to see all the good in the situation, but you will also begin, very soon, to feel satisfied and content.

Another benefit, is that the constant thanksgiving will be a cure for any discouragement you may have in your life. When we are discouraged, we are willing to grasp onto anything that coddles our emotions and makes us feel hopeful instead of clinging to the truth. This is why discouraging thoughts must be nipped in the bud before they blossom into something ugly; try thankfulness as the clippers. If you are discouraged about how you behaved yourself one day, for example, start thanking God for all the times that you didn’t mess up! If your heart begins to sink at the sight of a ‘C’ on a Science test thank God you didn’t get a ‘D’. When we’re thankful, the petty annoyances and upsetting experiences that happen in life shrink down to their proper size.

This doesn’t mean that we try to pretend like the frustrations and troubles don’t exist in life; they do, and they are upsetting, but they are not our masters. We have the privilege of being able to say with John Newton:

I am not the man I ought to be, I am not the man I want to be, I am not the man I hope to be; but by God’s grace, I am not the man I used to be!”

In conclusion, remember that if we were not able to give thanks in every situation, the Lord wouldn’t have commanded us to. And though we live in a fallen world, there is always something wonderful in every mishap—something we can praise God for with a joyful heart.

Thank Him, right now, for your eyes to see His many blessings!

-Christianna Hellwig {Guest Writer}

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Behold the Name of the Lord (February)

by Sarah Bryant & Mrs. Donna Morgan

Jenny N.

“Glory ye in his holy name:
let the heart of them rejoice that seek the LORD.”
{Psalm 105:3}

Dear Sisters in the Lord,

How are you doing this new year? It is amazing to think that one month of this year has already vanished. Time is a gift that cannot ever be recaptured – it is a gift that we must invest in, as it slips through our fingers. In just a few short days we will stand at the brink of this earthly life and will stand at the entrance of an eternity with Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord. James 4:14 asks,

“Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow.
For what is your life? It is even a vapour,
that appeareth for a little time,
and then vanisheth away.”

The things of this world will vanish and fade, but Jesus will last forever. What a day that will be when we can see Him face to face! Our God is good and is worth seeking with all of our heart. Lamentations 3:25 beautifully says, “The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.”

What do you seek this new year? Psalm 84:11 promises,

“The LORD God is a sun and shield:
the LORD will give grace and glory:
no good thing will he withhold
from them that walk uprightly.”

The Lord choses to withhold no good thing to those who earnestly seek Him, and the rewards of knowing Him are untold. He is an incredibly good God, one that surpasses our highest imaginations. Last year, as I read through the Bible, I made a list of the character of God displayed through His dealings with His people. As I reread this list recently, my heart filled with wonder! Think of all the most incredible, wonderful traits you can imagine, and then multiply that by a million – and that is our God. He’s beyond imagination; His mercy is unspeakable, undeserved, and His love will never be separated from us (Romans 8:35)!

We can never exhaust the wonder of God, even if we were to spend a thousand lifetimes seeking out His depths. A wonderful Bible mentor recently shared with me a short study she wrote of the meaning of the “Name of the LORD.” It blessed me so much that I wanted to share it with you. Every name of our God is filled with beauty and lessons to behold. May your heart be blessed as you revel in the wisdom of God before the beginning of time.

Mrs. Donna Morgan

In Exodus 3:15, God revealed His name to Moses that He intended to go down in infamy in regard to who He is.

“And God said moreover unto Moses, Thus shalt thou say unto the children of Israel, The LORD God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, hath sent me unto you: this is my name for ever, and this is my memorial unto all generations.”

He is the One who is ready to fulfill his promise to Abraham in Genesis 15:13-14  to deliver the children of Israel from slavery in Egypt. He would bring about that deliverance in the face of many obstacles by His mighty power. He would defeat every false god of Egypt along with the governing power of Egypt and its vast army.

Psalm 83 calls for God, the LORD, to conquer His enemies for one purpose. “That they may know that Thou alone, whose name is The LORD, art the Most High over all the earth” (verse 18). This word that is rendered as “LORD” in the Scriptures means “I AM” (Exodus 3:13-14). This word is derived from the Hebrew verb “to be.” This means He is the self-existing One. He, alone, is God. He, alone, has always existed and will always exist.

In Hebrew, each letter has a word-picture associated with it. The Hebrew letters for the name are transliterated into English as: “YHVH”, from the letters: “Yod, Hei, Vav, Hei.” When you look at the meaning of each letter within the name, the memorial is revealed:

Yod = Hand
Hei = Behold
Vav = Nail
Hei = Behold

“Behold the hand, behold the nail.”

The wounds of the cross had been revealed in the LORD’s Memorial Name long before the nails pierced His hands and feet. His Name is a memorial to the suffering He endured to set us free. His memorial name will stand forever in the person of Jesus Christ.*

Note: Walk Through The Bible, Aaron Robin

“And after eight days again his disciples were within, and Thomas with them: then came Jesus, the doors being shut, and stood in the midst, and said, Peace be unto you. Then saith he to Thomas, Reach hither thy finger, and behold my hands; and reach hither thy hand, and thrust it into my side: and be not faithless, but believing. And Thomas answered and said unto him, My Lord and my God. Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed.”
(John 20:26-29)

Jenny N.

This one look at the name of our LORD is unspeakably beautiful! To know that God, in the very title He gave Himself, fortold the Gospel – the sacrificial Lamb Who would be given as a sacrifice, Jesus Christ – this is so amazing! It is my desire to encourage you to seek the Lord, to delve into His truths, and to know His innumerable character traits through the Word this year. Stand in awe of His glory and His wisdom and His love. Be enraptured by Christ. This alone will transform your life, for 2 Corinthians 3:18 says that as we do, “We all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” You shall be transformed by His glory as you gaze into His face!

Seeking the Faithful One,

Editor of The King’s Blooming Rose