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How to Prepare for Your Future Home

by Paige B.

The thought of having our very own home, with our very own husband and children one day, gives us a tingle of excitement.

Some of us may be very optimistic type girls, and we picture this future home as being a beautiful, peaceful haven with darling perfect little children and a husband who adores us and tells us so every day!

Having our own joy-filled Christian home one day is a beautiful, God-given desire. However, we must be using the years God has given us right now to prepare ourselves to be godly wives and mothers. Many times I’ll watch my Mom perform a certain task, work through a sibling disagreement, or proficiently manage many things at one time; and I think, “Wow, I have so much to learn!” When I stop and think about the responsibilities that come with having a home to manage, a husband to passionately love, respect, and obey, and children to answer to God for; I ask God to help me use these years responsibly and make me fit for such a great task!

How do we prepare for our future homes? How can we begin to bless our future family now?

First of all, begin with your relationship with Jesus.

If you’re going to be prepared for the future, you must start with the One who holds the future. Where is your relationship with God? Are you in full communion with Him? Do you know His love for you? Is your heart totally given to Jesus? Are you only trusting in His love and grace for you? We can’t be what we need to be in our own power—we’d just end up miserable failures. We can’t prepare ourselves to be future wives and mothers when we aren’t truly walking with Jesus. We can’t (even with our wonderful husbands) train the next generation to love and serve God—without knowing and loving Him ourselves!

I’ve watched my parents work through so many issues on their knees. My siblings and I know that we definitely wouldn’t be what we are today if Mom and Dad hadn’t prayed and sought God with many tears for victory. It has been God’s grace through their prayers that changed our hearts. My mother’s prayers have sprung from her strong relationship with Jesus.

Do you really love God and have a heart totally given to Him? Is He working through you to conquer the things you struggle with each day, so you don’t carry them over into your future marriage and family? (If you struggle with character issues now, they will only be magnified in marriage!)

I would challenge you to delve into 1 John and truly see the deep, unfailing love that God has for you. Take time to pour out your heart to the Father who loves YOU so much He sent His only Son to die for YOU! He is your Good Shepherd—every pasture He leads you through is for your best. When you truly see the love of God for you, your heart will just naturally respond in deep love for Him. “We love Him, because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19). Make it important to always spend daily time with Jesus—no matter how many “good things” we may be doing, it doesn’t matter if we aren’t growing in God’s love and our relationship with Him.

Another way to prepare for your future home and family is to embrace where God has you.

Wherever you currently are, whether serving your family, ministering to grandparents, ministry with others, or whatever it may be, thank God for where He has you right now! It’s the best way to prepare, because it’s right where God wants you and can use you best.

Contentment is vital! Too often we think that “preparing for the future” is more important than serving Jesus right now. What if you may not be able to take classes at your local college because your mom needs your help teaching and training your younger siblings? Embrace and serve those little siblings—God knows they’re preparing you more than anything else can right now. You may not be able to sew all the little girl dresses and homemade things to put in your hopechest, because you have elderly grandparents to take care of and minister to. Be thankful, embrace where God has placed you, love those needy elderly grandparents, and serve them with cheerfulness! When our hearts are right, God will take care of the rest.

Finally, use your time wisely, dear girls!

The days are short and we must redeem the days God gives us. With the spare hours and minutes that God gives you each day, use them to prepare for your future family and home in the following ways:

  • During your time with the Lord every day, take a few minutes to pray for your future husband and children—our heavenly Father isn’t one of time and space; He remembers our prayers far after we humans have forgotten. Read Psalm 139!
  • Take the time to learn first aid and basic emergency response skills; these could save your child’s life or some other child’s life someday.
  • Read challenging books and learn new skills that could be of use in the future. Strive to always be learning and growing and progressing spiritually, physically, and mentally.
  • Prepare yourself for the physical rigours of motherhood by girding your body with strength (Proverbs 31:17)—through exercise and nutrition. Wisely steward the temple God has given you so you are equipped to serve Him to the fullest!
  • Enlist your family and friend’s help at birthdays, Christmas, or other holidays in helping you build your hopechest with useful things for your future home. You can also save special things that have been part of your life and girlhood, for your future daughters!
  • Learn from your mother. God gave us amazing moms who are just waiting to pass on a wealth of knowledge if we are just willing to listen and learn. Your mom will love teaching and showing you all the shortcuts and special ways she has discovered to run a home more efficiently. Don’t shrug it off—“Mother’s way” is often the best way.

These are just a few ways to begin preparing for the future and bless your future family. Use the days God has given you—these years pass by so fast—and see every circumstance you face today as God’s tool to perfect you into what He wants you to be!

Sisters, I encourage you to hold your dreams, preparations, and hopes for your future home in an open hand before God.

Be willing to let Him do with them what He will—He may bless and grow them for His glory or He may replace them with something far better. Adore and lift Him up as you serve Him right where He has you. As He leads you, use your time wisely to prepare for your future. Live for eternity!

Paige (21) is a joyful daughter of our loving heavenly Father. Her greatest passion in life is to bring glory to her King and be a channel of his love to the hearts of others. She teaches piano and violin and spends most of her time serving her family in all the little day-to-day duties of life. In her spare time, she’s either playing volleyball with her siblings, sewing, blogging, or writing about things God has laid on her heart. Her deepest desire is that you too may know the unfailing love God has for you as you journey heavenward.


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5 Ways to Bless Other Girls and Make New Friends (March)

by Sarah Lee Bryant

Do you sometimes wish you had a good friend? Do you wonder why you don’t “hit it off” with anyone?

Or maybe you’re disappointed that there are no “likeminded” girls in your area?

I think we all have been in those places! I know I certainly have!

The truth is, we have a natural human desire for companionship. Although our loving Father has graciously put many special people in our lives, they can’t fulfill our heart’s deepest desires. They can’t always be available to listen to our woes and needs, understand our feelings, or always comfort and encourage us.

In fact, no one on earth can. Only our Creator and Savior Jesus Christ can satisfy our heart’s deep desires! Our hearts were made by Him and for Him, and as Augustine said:

“You have made us for Yourself, and our hearts are restless until they can find rest in You.”

When our hearts have been filled by Jesus and we are complete in Him, then we will be equipped to be a channel through which Christ can spread His love to others. And then, we will be able to develop friendships that will sharpen one another and be based upon the Lord!

You see, that “friend” you’re looking for may be in disguise. You’re looking for someone who is a certain age and looks a certain way and has certain interests (of course, the same ones you have).

But, sisters, let’s just admit—that’s a rather selfish outlook on friendship!

God has a solution:

“Look not every man on his own things,
but every man also on the things of others.”

(Philippians 2:4)

Instead of waiting for the “perfect somebody” to come to you looking to be a friend, try a different approach. Look for opportunities to reach out and bless and serve others. Invest in other girls’ lives. Initiate conversations and be genuinely interested in what God is doing in the lives of others…even if they are not your age or have similar interests!

Here are five ways I’d like to challenge you to minister to other girls!

  1. Initiate the conversation. Have you ever really talked to that little girl at church or reached out to the quiet woman who always sits alone? Maybe you aren’t quite sure what you have in common. Find out! Go out of your comfort zone: be interested in her life and find out what her interests are. Use that as a springboard to show that you care about her, and be consistent to initiate conversations when you can!
  2. Pray for her. Maybe you do not know a certain girl very well, but would like to bless her (even if you haven’t quite found “what makes her tick” quite yet). Put her on your prayer list! If you have the opportunity, you could ask her for any specific prayer requests she might have. It is such a blessing to know someone is praying for you!
  3. Remember her birthday. I remember years ago, when I received a birthday card from an acquaintance. I was shocked that she remembered my birthday—and cared enough to send me thoughtful wishes. We are friends to this day—her thoughtfulness meant so much! Keep a birthday calendar and have a ministry of sending birthday cards with an encouraging Scripture verse.
  4. Invest the Word of God in her life. Text an encouraging verse here and there, meet her out for lunch and read a passage together or work memorizing Scripture together, or keep one another accountable for Bible reading or Scripture memory.
  5. Do normal activities together! Invite her to do something normal with you one afternoon. Whether it’s baking, sewing, playing instruments, studying the Bible, walking—these normal daily things can be a great way to spend time together and encourage one another. Your conversations don’t always have to be about deep theological issues (although these conversations are great!)—they can also be uplifting and fun!

As you invest in others, you may be surprised at how God blesses and sharpens you! And you may never know what an impact your efforts to “be a friend” can have in their life. Friendships that cross the age gap are sharpening both spiritually and emotionally. Learn to relate to others in various seasons and walks of life, and to recognize God at work in their hearts!

“And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these My brethren, ye have done it unto Me.”
(Matthew 25:40)

Have you ever been blessed by someone in a special way?

What did they do that encouraged you? Maybe that will give you more ideas of how you can bless other girls! We’d love to hear what ideas you may have.


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A Letter from a Mother (June)

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by Guest Writer Mrs. Ryan

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment
with promise;)
 That it may be well with thee,
and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
(Ephesians 6:1-3)

Dear Daughters,

My mother passed away two years ago. Getting older and having my own children has given me a different perspective on the relationship I had with my mother. I would like to share some thoughts on my heart with you.

To be honest, my relationship with my mother was often strained. As I look back on our almost 50 years of a mother-daughter relationship, there are many things that I am glad of, but I have regrets, too. I want to share these with you and perhaps you will be spared of some regrets after your own mother passes.

Moms are people, too. I suppose I had very high expectations of my mom as a girl. I expected her to know everything and make no mistakes. But Mom was human. Mom had her own struggles and hurts and challenges. It was easy to focus on my needs and not consider hers. My mom didn’t complain about her challenges. One of her difficulties was arthritis. I remember her taking the stairs slowly, one at a time, because of pain. I know I probably complained when she asked for help, so she didn’t ask much. I was a pretty compliant child and did what I was told. But I didn’t go above and beyond what was asked or expected of me. I wish I had run up and down those steps for her and sought to make her life easier.

God choses our parents for us. Growing up, I had no concept of God having chosen my parents for me. Imperfect as they were, my parents were God’s vehicle for my growing up years. I wish I had been grateful for His Providence for me.

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Tell your mom “I love you.” After I had a couple of children, I remember telling a friend of mine that my parents never said “I love you,” to me. She put it right back in my court. “Do you tell them?” And I had to admit, “No, I did not.” I was convicted then and there. After that, I made a point of telling my parents, “I love you,” at the end of phone conversations. At first they didn’t say it back. But over time, they were able to tell me they loved me. I am glad to have no regrets about that. After Mom died, at times I wish I could tell her again that I loved her.

By the grace of God, I do not live with “only regrets” in my role as a daughter. There are things in my life that I am glad I persevered in, even when they were hard.

Mom developed Alzheimer’s Disease at the end of her life. It is a slow, sad disease. Mom had always been so very strong in mind. It was hard for her. The time came that Mom basically stopped speaking except for an occasional “No.” In the last couple of years of her life, when I took a couple of children to visit with her, we would take instruments and hymnals. Dad liked the old Gospel hymns. We would sing and the kids would play their instruments. One visit, my son observed that mom smiled during the singing. Mom didn’t smile much otherwise. When it seemed that Mom’s time was to be measured in hours, I drove the 7 hours to be with her and Dad and my siblings. Mom lasted two weeks more, however. And I was able to stay and spend time with my parents with my two siblings. It was a quiet time but a very special one. I had opportunity to read the Bible to Mom, sing hymns with Dad at Mom’s bedside and serve in little ways. The only word Mom ever said was, “No.” But I asked Mom if she knew that Jesus loved her and she said “Yes.” I asked Mom if she knew He had died for her sins and she said, “Yes.” I have reason to hope that Mom did know Jesus in the end. Those last two weeks of her life were the best I ever had with Mom. God restored the years that the locust had eaten.

So, dear girls, I challenge you, as a mother looking back over my own relationship with my mother: seek to live with no regrets in your relationship with your mother. Love her. Forgive her. Invest in your relationship with her. Look for ways to lighten her load. Pray for her. Be Jesus’ hands and feet to her.

As a mother myself, I know how imperfect mothers are. I know how many times I fail God, my children, and others. And God forgives me, loves me, gives grace, and shows mercy. And that is what He wants me to do for others. I wish I had had more grace for my mother; I wish I had sought to understand her better when I was younger.

You have that opportunity today, to show your mother honor and respect and love. Do that with joy, and have no regrets!

This guest post was written by Mrs. Ryan who has been blessed with 26 years of marriage and 9 children. If you’re interested in writing a guest post for KBR Ministries, click here.


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The Matchless Love of God (March)

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God’s love toward us is simply amazing!

The Scriptures contain the story of God’s love for us, which was demonstrated through the sacrifice of His Son on the Cross.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
(John 3:16)

It is so amazing that God would love us – sinners who have sinned against Him throughout our entire existence. The Bible explains a lot about God’s love. Here are a few characteristics about His love I would like us to ponder.

God’s love is sovereign. He explained this to the Israelites:

“For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God: the LORD thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth. The LORD did not set his love upon you, nor choose you, because ye were more in number than any people; for ye were the fewest of all people: But because the LORD loved you, and because he would keep the oath which he had sworn unto your fathers, hath the LORD brought you out with a mighty hand, and redeemed you out of the house of bondmen, from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt.”
(Deuteronomy 7:6-8)

God does not choose us because we are good. He loves us simply because that is what He wants to do. What mercy!

God’s love is abiding.

This means that God still loves us no matter what situations we go through or what sins we commit. Because of His abiding love He will save us. The Bible says,

“The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is might; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.”
(Zephaniah 3:17)

God’s love is unalienable. Nothing can ever separate us from the love of our Savior!

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
(Romans 8:35-39)

Jesus also said that we are safe once we are His. “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand” (John 10:28).

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The Bible also tells some things we should do when we realize that God really does love us.

“Because thy lovingkindness is better than life,
my lips shall praise thee.”

(Psalm 63:3)

God does lots of things for us because He loves us. He provides for us in many ways. Some we do not even think about or know about. He gave you that breath that you just took. This should cause us to give Him unceasing praise.

David expressed this well. He said,

“What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? For thou has made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour.”
(Psalm 8:4-5)

We are called to be like Christ. Therefore, we as understand how much He loves us, we should walk in His steps and show His love to others around us. Are you and I striving to be loving young ladies? This is a question that makes us search ourselves and our lives.

May we grow to understand the love of Christ for us, and live in the freedom of being His forever. Let’s strive to reflect that love to others in all that we do and say!

What are some ways you can show others love today?

-Guestpost by Abigail L. (12)


Sharing Love with the Lost (October)

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by Andrea N.

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not;
charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.”
{1 Corinthians 13:4-6}

If you don’t know her now, she is someone that you probably have known in the past. She is a girl who laughs loudly, dresses inappropriately, and is obnoxious.

While our first reaction may be repulsion, the truth is that she needs love. Most often, love is the very last thing we want to give. Though we may not admit it, to you and me, a girl like this seems irritating, and sometimes just plain wicked!

However, honestly, we are the first to need a change of heart. We must realize that the thing a girl like this needs most is love, and that if we were in her place, we would want someone to reach out and encourage us. But how do we change our mindset from that of disgust, to a mindset of love?

We must first understand that “but for the grace of God” I would be her. It is not of my own power or goodness, but because God in His wisdom chose to place me in a Christian home and give me salvation.

“By the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace
which was bestowed upon me was not in vain.”

{1 Corinthians 15:10} 

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I am blessed to work on a church bus route and bring folks of all ages to our church each Sunday morning. Through this ministry, I have been able to meet several girls, and I get to see some of the “why” behind the way they act. I visit her home each Saturday. I have heard her parents yell at her. I have smelled the filth and seen the clutter in her home. All this leads me to realize two things.

First, there is a reason behind her behavior. She is loud, not only to get attention, but also to try to block out some of her world. She dresses atrociously to get attention and maybe just to fit in. She doesn’t even feel like she fits in in her own home. She is clingy because she feels that she has found someone who truly thinks of her as a person and she is starved for that love.

Secondly, I see that she is in desperate need of love. At some point, I had to come to the realization that God put these girls in my path for a reason. He doesn’t want me to turn my back to their need. It is more comfortable for me to stick with my little group of friends, but the Christian life isn’t about our personal comfort. Jesus certainly stepped out of His comfort zone when He died on the cross.

“Above all these things put on charity,
which is the bond of perfectness.”
{Colossians 3:14}

That being said, what are some practical ways we can reach out to these precious souls?

Smile straight at her. You will be delighted at the beautiful countenance you can pull from a seemingly hard, sullen girl. It sends a message that you care.

Take an interest in her. Fire questions until you find a subject she will talk about. Once she starts talking, listen! Try to have an interest in the things she is talking about, even if you don’t have an interest in it! (If the subject is inappropriate, gently lead the conversation elsewhere.)

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After you have won her confidence, you can start encouraging her in the Lord, but do not “preach.” One of the best times to encourage is when she asks you a question. When she says, “Why do you wear skirts?” Explain that you use the Bible as your foundation for everything including dress, or that you desire to honor your parents’ standards, or whatever direction you need to take it. Direct any question into the plan of salvation. If she is saved, a good way to encourage and direct the conversation is to ask about her Bible reading. That accountability is so important.

Let us not be classified is as “Christian snobs.” If others don’t see Jesus in us as His daughters, where else will they see Him? So the next time you feel repulsed by a worldly girl, let me encourage you to try to reach out to her instead. May God bless you as you show His love!

“Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.”
{Matthew 25:45}

-Andrea N. (19)