Do You Truly Care About Modesty? (July)

by Sarah Lee Bryant

We as the King’s daughters probably hear a lot about dressing modestly.

Sometimes, though, we need to be reminded. That’s because we are constantly bombarded by the world with contrary messages. All around us, we see skin showing. We grow desensitized to impurity.

So why is it so important that we value modesty? While there are many Biblical motivations for modesty both in attitude and apparel, the Lord has been reminding me of these specific areas:

1. Modesty reveals that we are grateful for the covering blood of Christ.

Clothing symbolizes the covering that we as sinners need and have by the blood of Jesus Christ, which was shed for the atonement of our sins. Clothing covers our shame; Christ covers our sin. And when we willingly and purposefully dress for the glory of our Lord, in a sense our appearance tells the world that we are happy to be under His covering, we are grateful for His grace, and we are fully satisfied in Who He is to us.

2. Modesty is an outward manifestation of love.

When we dress modestly – not drawing attention to our bodies in such a way that could provoke unlawful thoughts or desires in others – we are demonstrating true love. Unselfish love. A love that is willing to show we care about others’ spiritual wellbeing before the Lord.

3. Modesty is beautiful and incredibly freeing.

Walking in obedience to the Lord in the area of modesty sets us free to live to Christ. We are free from the world’s standards and trends and vanities. We embrace the holy beauty of the Lord – which will never fade. Modesty enhances the beauty of Christ within our heart.

“Whether therefore ye eat, or drink,
or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”
(I Corinthians 10:31)

Do YOU desire modesty?

However, have you ever been like I have felt at times… You knew the value and importance of modesty to God, but when it all boiled down to it… You just had no desire to dress modestly? You knew it was right (and maybe you even conformed to the standards required of you) but your heart simply wasn’t in it?

I know it sounds terrible put it so bluntly…but the truth is, in our flesh, we do not desire modesty. The old (sinful) nature within us desires the natural affections of the flesh. We desire the attention that we can get when we wear certain immodest clothing.

“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.”
(Galatians 5:16-17)

We must have a regenerated heart to have wholesome desires and to walk in obedience to the Spirit…and to truly desire to dress for the glory of our Savior!

And as we walk with the Lord, there may be times when we in our flesh simply don’t “want” to do what is right. Therefore, there is a battle between our spirit and flesh. The apostle Paul talks about this in Romans chapter 7.

“For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.”
(Romans 7:18-19)

Realizing this when it comes to modesty in particular can be helpful. Modesty is a choice we make in obedience to our Lord and Savior, to bring Him the glory and honor. As we obey, He blesses.

Let me share how the Lord has been teaching me this personally!

I have always been taught the importance of modesty, and I am grateful for this. However at one time in particular, I began to wonder what the big deal was. Although I knew the “whys” of modesty, part of me still pushed against it. I struggled with a constant desire to want to wear things that would make me feel more attractive physically. Nothing radical – just a subtle tweak here and there.

However, I quickly began to see what a slippery slope this road was. Push the standard a little in one area – why not fit the rest of the outfit to match? I didn’t know why I felt so confused about these “little things” – because there were always others who dressed much less conservatively. After all, the Lord has given us liberty within Biblical guidelines – and the way He leads each of His children looks different for us all. No one else knew when I was pushing the line or had wrong motives…however, I knew.

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The issue for me was not the piece of clothing – it was the fact that I was pushing against the Holy Spirit’s promptings in my heart.

I knew what He wanted of me. I knew that He was convicting me of these wrong motives. The clothing was simply the outward manifestation.

Finally, one day after wrestling over this for quite a while, I realized I had a choice. I could choose to walk in obedience to the Lord’s leading in this area. I didn’t have to follow my fleshly desires and compromise. What a simple thing – but at the time, it was very profound!

That day, I literally told myself, You know, that piece of clothing may not be defined as ‘immodest’ by someone else…but it is simply not what the Lord wants me to wear at this time. I’m going to obey Him!

So I walked to my closet – and selected the few articles of clothing that I had felt convicted about…and gave them to a thrift shop.

I can’t express the freedom I felt in that moment.

When I choose to stop reasoning it out and justifying myself…and I repented, and heeded the leading of the Holy Spirit, all those fleshly desires for attention disappeared. I wanted to please the Lord in this area of my life!

In my flesh, I didn’t desire modesty. But when I made the choice to simply obey despite my feelings – the Lord blessed and I experienced incredible freedom! (One practical thing I have done since that time is write down a few personal guidelines, so that when I’m shopping I don’t have to wrestle with…is that too short…well it’s not that bad… Instead, I have a guide and can simply say…it doesn’t fit the criteria!)

“And they that are Christ’s have crucified
the flesh with the affections and lusts.”
(Galatians 5:24)

Sisters, the ways of the Lord really are peace and truth and freedom. If we will just trust Him and obey – we will experience that freedom! So often my faith is weak, and I am not willing to walk in faith and obey. And therefore I don’t experience the many blessings that the Lord wants to freely bestow. What a conviction this is to my heart.

What about you? Where is your heart? Do you desire to dress for God’s glory?

I’m not asking if you can check all the proverbial boxes of the “modesty checklist.”

That’s because you and I can be perfectly conforming to the outward standard…all the while our hearts are lusting after the sin and acceptance of the world. I’m asking…do you really have a heart that desires to bring the Lord Jesus Christ honor in how you dress?

Or has the Lord been gently tugging at your heart…calling your heart to purity? I encourage you to get in God’s Word, study this topic, and understand His heart for you. Confess any sinful desires to the Lord; He already sees it all (Psalm 51). Rid your heart and your closet of immodesty. Say no to your flesh, and say yes to His will. As I have found, you will experience incredible freedom and joy as you embrace His will!

All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies.”
(Psalm 25:10)

May the Lord make you and I to be young ladies who truly have hearts that are all glorious within…and then our clothing will beautifully reflect that (Psalm 45:13)!

 


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A Letter from a Mother (June)

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by Guest Writer Mrs. Ryan

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment
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 That it may be well with thee,
and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
(Ephesians 6:1-3)

Dear Daughters,

My mother passed away two years ago. Getting older and having my own children has given me a different perspective on the relationship I had with my mother. I would like to share some thoughts on my heart with you.

To be honest, my relationship with my mother was often strained. As I look back on our almost 50 years of a mother-daughter relationship, there are many things that I am glad of, but I have regrets, too. I want to share these with you and perhaps you will be spared of some regrets after your own mother passes.

Moms are people, too. I suppose I had very high expectations of my mom as a girl. I expected her to know everything and make no mistakes. But Mom was human. Mom had her own struggles and hurts and challenges. It was easy to focus on my needs and not consider hers. My mom didn’t complain about her challenges. One of her difficulties was arthritis. I remember her taking the stairs slowly, one at a time, because of pain. I know I probably complained when she asked for help, so she didn’t ask much. I was a pretty compliant child and did what I was told. But I didn’t go above and beyond what was asked or expected of me. I wish I had run up and down those steps for her and sought to make her life easier.

God choses our parents for us. Growing up, I had no concept of God having chosen my parents for me. Imperfect as they were, my parents were God’s vehicle for my growing up years. I wish I had been grateful for His Providence for me.

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Tell your mom “I love you.” After I had a couple of children, I remember telling a friend of mine that my parents never said “I love you,” to me. She put it right back in my court. “Do you tell them?” And I had to admit, “No, I did not.” I was convicted then and there. After that, I made a point of telling my parents, “I love you,” at the end of phone conversations. At first they didn’t say it back. But over time, they were able to tell me they loved me. I am glad to have no regrets about that. After Mom died, at times I wish I could tell her again that I loved her.

By the grace of God, I do not live with “only regrets” in my role as a daughter. There are things in my life that I am glad I persevered in, even when they were hard.

Mom developed Alzheimer’s Disease at the end of her life. It is a slow, sad disease. Mom had always been so very strong in mind. It was hard for her. The time came that Mom basically stopped speaking except for an occasional “No.” In the last couple of years of her life, when I took a couple of children to visit with her, we would take instruments and hymnals. Dad liked the old Gospel hymns. We would sing and the kids would play their instruments. One visit, my son observed that mom smiled during the singing. Mom didn’t smile much otherwise. When it seemed that Mom’s time was to be measured in hours, I drove the 7 hours to be with her and Dad and my siblings. Mom lasted two weeks more, however. And I was able to stay and spend time with my parents with my two siblings. It was a quiet time but a very special one. I had opportunity to read the Bible to Mom, sing hymns with Dad at Mom’s bedside and serve in little ways. The only word Mom ever said was, “No.” But I asked Mom if she knew that Jesus loved her and she said “Yes.” I asked Mom if she knew He had died for her sins and she said, “Yes.” I have reason to hope that Mom did know Jesus in the end. Those last two weeks of her life were the best I ever had with Mom. God restored the years that the locust had eaten.

So, dear girls, I challenge you, as a mother looking back over my own relationship with my mother: seek to live with no regrets in your relationship with your mother. Love her. Forgive her. Invest in your relationship with her. Look for ways to lighten her load. Pray for her. Be Jesus’ hands and feet to her.

As a mother myself, I know how imperfect mothers are. I know how many times I fail God, my children, and others. And God forgives me, loves me, gives grace, and shows mercy. And that is what He wants me to do for others. I wish I had had more grace for my mother; I wish I had sought to understand her better when I was younger.

You have that opportunity today, to show your mother honor and respect and love. Do that with joy, and have no regrets!

This guest post was written by Mrs. Ryan who has been blessed with 26 years of marriage and 9 children. If you’re interested in writing a guest post for KBR Ministries, click here.


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I’m perplexed! What should I do? (May)

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by Guest Writer Hannah Heinritz

Have you ever been at a point in your life that you have been truly perplexed?

Where you’ve sat down, put your head in your hands, and said, “Lord, I really don’t understand what you’re doing in my life and the world around me.” Have you ever felt like you’re troubled on EVERY side?

Have you been burdened by living under persecution, not being in danger of your life per se, but rather that daily nagging rejection and disapproval of those around you because you’re living for the Lord? Or do you feel “cast down”; you just don’t have the strength or energy to go on? You wake up in the morning exhausted and pray, “How long Lord?”

As I have walked through a lot of troubles these past few months, I have often felt completely perplexed, troubled, persecuted and “cast down.” But over and over God keeps bringing to mind a precious message on 2 Corinthians 4.

“We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed.”
(2 Corinthians 4:8-9)

God does NOT sugar-coat our suffering. His Word acknowledges the pain we endure, and the emotions we feel. But even in that, He offers us something so much bigger and more powerful – HOPE.

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There is HOPE.

I don’t know what you are going through today, what you have been going through or what you will be going through in the days to come…but God does, and He has a plan for your suffering.

He never allows suffering to come needlessly. He is not a cruel God who takes delight in our misery and pain. There is ALWAYS a purpose to the trials He sends. He is equipping you to minister His healing and His grace to those around you who are hurting. It’s only as we receive the comfort of God that we can give that same comfort to the broken people all around us.

“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulations, that we may be able to comfort them, which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.”
(2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

God opened my eyes to the fact that all the books and all the great conferences in the world will never be as valuable as the tailor-made trials that God brings into my life. God knows exactly what lessons you and I need and what dross needs to be burned out of our lives, and in His love and wisdom He knows exactly the best way to accomplish that purpose in each of our lives. When you are broken and feeling like your life is falling apart, God is at work and it is through that pain that He is equipping you to minister to others now and in the future.

You may be at the point the Apostle Paul was at when he said in 2 Corinthians 1:8,

“For we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life.”

Maybe you’re in that same place and you’re thinking, “I feel like I’m drowning and I can’t make it up for air. I think I’m dying inside. If I make it through this, I’ll never be the same.”

The painful truth is that God does not intend for you to be the same! 2 Corinthians 4:10 says, “Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.”

For you or me to be effective in ministering to any person, God must strip and mold us. The suffering God sends is PURPOSEFUL. God is sovereignly ordaining these circumstances of suffering in each of our lives. As the sinful selfish part of me dies, the life of Jesus will be manifested more and more in my life.

In the fires of affliction, God does His work of sanctification in our lives (Romans 5:3-5). For this we should praise Him.

When we grasp this beautiful perspective, we can truly come to the point where we can say with Paul, “For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day. For our light affliction, which is but for a moment worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.”

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So what do we do in these moments where we are perplexed?

“For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”
(Hebrews 4:15-16)


Go boldly before the Lord for the grace and mercy you so desperately need.
Jesus is there for you. He understands. And remember, there is a purpose for your pain, and if you let Him, God will use this for His great glory and your good.

This guest post was written by Hannah Heinritz. If you’re interested in writing a guest post for KBR Ministries click here. 


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What Master Are You Serving? Sin or Jesus?

Megan Craig

Last month, at KBR’s Joyful Daughters Conference, it was a joy to see so many young ladies with a desire to walk with and please our Lord Jesus. We thought you would be blessed by notes from Megan Craig’s session, “The Sweet Aroma of a Poured Out Life.” If you would like to listen to her session, you can download it here.

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The Sweet Aroma of a Poured Out Life

 

We all serve one of two masters: Jesus Christ or sin. Who we serve determines where we will seek approval and acceptance from, what reward we will seek, and ultimately, what we are willing to pour ourselves out for.

When Christ is our Master, we are accepted by God. He accepts us not because of our own works, but because He chooses to for His good pleasure! Jesus is the only Master worth serving.

We find in the sinner woman of Luke 7 a beautiful example we can follow, as she demonstrated four character qualities as she poured herself out for her Master, Jesus.

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Just as the sinner woman did, we should walk in these four qualities:

Humility

The disposition of those not seeking to earn acceptance, recognizing we do not earn our positions as daughters of the King! We have no self-image to preserve even in the sight of others; we just live out of humble worship for Jesus. Jesus makes us lovely and our value is in Him!

Gratitude

…is the joyful attitude that understands we have been freed from a debt that we could never repay; we have everything to give thanks for!

The man in Matthew 18:23-33 owed 160,000 years of debt! When we realize how great our sin debt is – we could never pay it – we will realize the immensity of our redemption in Christ!

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Sacrifice

Our life should be a living sacrifice for the Lord – a life transformed by His grace.

Our bodies, formerly slaves of sin, should be set apart for holy service to the Lord, demonstrated by service to the least of those around us. Following Jesus will require sacrifice. The pain of saying “no” to your will is the birth pain of your reward for serving Jesus! Remember His example, as He gave all!

Love

To whom little is forgiven, the same loves little: we have been forgive much, and ought therefore to love much! How much have you been forgiven of your sins?

Now consider, how much has the world forgiven you? Nothing! Therefore, don’t love the world!

Do you delight more in loving JESUS or in loving the world? Do you love to obey His commands? Do you love to being His daughter? 

Our death proclaims His life:
and that is the most beautiful aroma of all.

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Memorize These Verses…

  • Luke 7:36-50
  • Matthew 12:30
  • Proverbs 20:17
  • Matthew 18:23-35 I
  • I Corinthians 5:17, 9:15
  • Romans 6:19
  • Colossians 3:5-13
  • Matthew 25:37-46
  • Hebrews 11:24-26
  • John 14:21
  • Ephesians 5:1-2
  • II Corinthians 4:10

How about you?

  • What validation/affirmation do you seek?
  • What reward do you seek?
  • What association do you seek?
  • Where are your affections filled?
  • How much has the world forgiven you?
  • Do you delight more in loving Jesus or in loving the world?
  • Do you love to obey the commandments of Jesus; do you love to be what Scripture defines as a godly woman?

Jesus is the ultimate sweet-smelling aroma (Eph. 5:1-2), and so as we die to ourselves, our death proclaims His life (II Cor. 4:10), and that is the most beautiful aroma of all.

The world is ALWAYS A BAD MASTER. And Jesus is ALWAYS A GOOD MASTER.

Choose your master! Will it be the world or Jesus?

Only Jesus is worth it!

Why pour out your life for Christ? Because He is the only master worthy of serving.


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Are you Walking with Jesus? (April)

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Last week, at KBR’s Joyful Daughters Conference, it was such a blessing to meet many of you! It is a true joy to see so many young ladies with a desire to walk with and please our Lord Jesus. The opening session was given by Lolly Hale and was titled “Walking with Jesus: It’s All About Him.” This session was such an encouragement that we wanted to share its critical message with you as well.

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Walking with Jesus:
It’s All About Him

Our goal as young Christian women is to become more like our precious Lord Jesus. Only as we keep Him our Object and Center, can He work that beautiful work in our lives. He is the Hub in the center of the wheel. Your salvation is only the beginning of the greatest love relationship of your life! It is by believing on Jesus finished work on the cross, and not our measly “good works” that we can experience the joy of true salvation.
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Walking in the Spirit becomes natural when we recognize that we need Him on a daily basis. It is then that we automatically lean on Him, and fellowship with Him, because we realize we can’t do anything without Him. We learn to talk with Jesus all the time, walking in the Spirit. This is what praying without ceasing can mean in our lives. We constantly thank Him for the gifts He puts in our lives.
As our needs draw us to Him, our relationship moves us from a mere acquaintance level to a deep friendship. Spending time with Jesus becomes naturally a part of our every day lives because we love Him. It is then that we begin to realize that discouragement on any level only drives a wedge between us and our dearest Friend. It is His desire that we do not focus on our failures or our victories, but that we focus on Him alone – “Looking unto Jesus.” It’s all about Him.

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How about you?

Are you walking with Jesus minute by minute? What does your relationship with Him look like right now?
  • Are you relying on Jesus’ goodness for your acceptance with God, rather than your own attempts to please Him?
  • Are you seeking to learn to hear His voice, at the same time remembering that you are His little lamb who needs lots of time with the Good Shepherd in order to know His voice?
  • Are you setting aside a time each day to spend with Jesus, not out of duty, but because you love Him?
  • Are you rejecting discouragement, as Satan’s ploy to trap you into negative thoughts and actions? Are you looking unto Jesus, remembering that your relationship is “all about Him”?
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If you sense a need to walk with Jesus more closely…
  • Practice bringing your mind back to Jesus every hour today.
  • Thank Him for being part of your life.
  • Smile and tell Him you love Him.
  • Tell Jesus you want your life to be “all about Him.”

Memorize God’s Word

Philippians 2:13: “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure.”  This reminds us that He will do His good work in us as we look to Him.

May the Lord bless you as you seek Him!

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